November 4, 2009
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Facebook Relationship Status
saves the day!
So naturally, I’ve been meeting a bunch of new guys. No, I don’t mean that it’s just natural for me to do that; it’s the fact that I’m in a new environment and I’m decently attractive. A few guys have hinted that they show interest in me. Even guys from back home have recently expressed an interest. I’ve never been the type of person who can let people down easy. Either I straight up say “Pass,” or I just continue pretending I’m oblivious to the situation.
So there are two guys in particular that I have met and they’ve expressed obvious interest in me. One guy started giving me pet names by the third day I’ve known him. He also invited me to go eat with him and his buddies, but apparently the buddies didn’t get the message. It was mad awkward so I haven’t really hung out with him since.
The other guy wasn’t as obvious, but when I asked him if he wanted to eat at a dining hall he’d happily accept, include some sort of smiley in his reply text, and then look disappointed if I brought my roommate. Once it was just him and me at the dining hall. We had friendly conversations, but we had natural pauses in conversation where I’d be eating my food. I’d look up from my plate seeing him staring and smiling at me. So awkward.
Afterward, he insisted on taking me to Pomme Frittes since I’ve never been there. I protested, but he wouldn’t let me blame my stomach ache, the weather, or the fact I had no money. I had to get rid of him somehow though. My boyfriend was on his way up to the city to spend the weekend with me. I was just eating with him because I knew my boyfriend would be here too late for us to eat dinner together. After we got the fries, he invited himself to my dorm, saying that the restaurant was too packed and we should just eat at my dorm, two blocks away. Needless to say, my boyfriend called, telling me he was here, and I had to ask him to leave. And let me tell you, that was the most awkward situation I’ve ever been in. The kid got so pissed and bitter with me. Last words I heard from him were “Hope long distance works out for you.” Bitch.
So to ward off anymore situations like this, I decided to change my Facebook status to let everyone know I was in a relationship. Prior to this my relationship status was always unlisted. I’m guessing the kid from above saw and when we passed by each other on the street he gave this look like he was holding the biggest grudge. Oh well, cry me a river.
That aside, this status change has reallllly been helpful. A random friend of friends added me and started talking to me. He obviously didn’t get the hint when I never responded when he asked for my number and constantly Facebook chats me. Then he sees my relationship status. No more of that!
A former creeper from back at home decided to reconnect with me. He was flirting with me, so I let him know I had a boyfriend, and he said, “Yeah, I know. I saw it on Facebook. I was just kidding.” I’m guessing I won’t hear anything more of him either.
It’s just so much easier to turn down guys when they know you have a boyfriend. My neighbor asked me straight up after taking me to hookah if I had a boyfriend. It was complicated so I just replied with “ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRM.” He got the picture, and now he’s pursuing my roommate. Poor her.
A guy from my Stats class was over doing homework with me. It was pretty obvious that he was considering pursuing me. My boyfriend happened to call, and I always put on my boyfriend voice when he calls. Mad cute, higher pitched voice, really nice, etc. Then all of a sudden after that, I became a homie. Like literally as soon as I put down my phone, he was calling me “dude.”
This situation is so interesting. I’ve never been in a real relationship before, so I’ve never been put through this.
Comments (38)
haha congrats.
Haha. “Hope long distance works out for you.” What a jerk. Although, I feel sorry for the guy.
yeah facebook relationship status helpsbut then again I also hate putting up the SINGLE statuscause I can imagine it would get flooded with guys message/ comment
relationships are overrated
Aww the poor guys… =PBut yeah, they should take the hint if not, just tell them flat out you’re not interested.
Facebook status does help ward off creepers. xD But that’s such a funny situation to be put in – awkward, definitely. It’s a shame guys can’t just come right out and ask if you’re taken or seeing someone else. They can do it nonchalantly, too. I did it all the time to boys, or asked their friends.Guys can do the same, but I guess they’re too shy.
as long as your forward with them and dont lead them on (which it seems as if youre a doing a good job of doing) then i dont forsee anything problems.
hahahha your post made me laugh while also feeling sorry for the guys! Congrats to you for your bf though (:I’d give anything to be able to change my FB status to “in a relationship” (and actually mean it). IMO, getting to tell guys that try to flirt with you or ask you to do things that you have a BF is so… awesome. I dunno how to describe it. xD It’s like, a really proud feeling. “Yeah, I’m with him. I love him and he’s mine. You can’t have me and I don’t want to be yours so leave me alone!!!” ^___^
i hate awkwardness… it just makes me feel like the other person is too incompatible to my personality. when you say you’ve never been in a real relationship before is this the first one for you or this doesnt count either?
what you need is a deterrent. like pepper spray or a big hawk like from Beast Master the movie. and oh two ferrets!!
@LuxteK - all relationships before this one didn’t count.
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hmm there is two sides to this situation. 1. of course the dude who was rude after finding out u had a bf, was a complete tool and also its funny that guy started calling you dude right after u got off the phone with your bf. ur lucky, sometimes guys dont give a damn and still chase even after knowing u have a bf. case in point, this one dude continued to go after this girl i was seeing AFTER she told him 3 times he had a bf. he excuse when i confronted him was “i didnt know she had a bf, she never told me” but it was on speaker and i saw many texts from his response to that. 2. this is just my opinion so i hope i dont offend you but i think maybe since u didnt have up that you are in relationship, that guys would chase after you like dogs in heat. some creepers actually will go around looking at girls profiles to see if they are taken and/or with someone. if not you suddenly become the target. so i think maybe you should have made it obvious to these dudes from the beginning? regardless now they know, and hopefully (keyword) they will get the point.
@phuck_diz_shiz - of course, dont u want creepers and stalkers? haha
@koreansoul09 - oh I have MORE THAN enough creepers and stalkers on my case than I can handle. lol
Now that you’ve put up the relationship flag, you should leave it up permanently. The second you change it, guys will be coming out of the wood work.
haha who knew facebook was good for warding off the creepers
@phuck_diz_shiz - well geez now they have to take a hint, no more stalking!! haha im sure that if u told them to leave you alone it WOULDNT work….sad lol
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lol no offense but why didnt you do that in the first place?
@HiandGoodbye - well i thought fb relationship statuses were mad overplayed. like i don’t need to make it “official” over facebook. then i had a revelation that if i changed my relationship status that maybe i wouldn’t have creeper problems anymore.
ha ha . i personally prefer not to do that bc ish like publicizing everything to the world if my relationship failed or not.btw. nice site. saw it on cakalusa’s
Facebook status or not, people think I am just putting it up as a reason to avoid guys. I do have a boyfriend though!
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@phuck_diz_shiz - you can set your privacy settings to not notify people when changing relationship status.
Gotta love the power of Facebook. The best is when you “hide” it and no one can see your relationship status. Leaves everyone wondering…
Hey, I came across your profile while reading blogs on datingish. This blog of yours really caught my attention. It absolutely bugged me that my ex never put “in a relationship” status on facebook. She’d always get lots of random guys trying to add her and I honestly wanted people to know we were dating. Anyways, what was your boyfriend’s thought on that? Maybe it’s just me being stupid!
@CLTPanthers - my boyfriend didn’t really care. we thought fb “official” was all overrated.
@XoAsianBabioX - Ah gotcha. Guess I put a little too much thought into it, ha! Interesting posts though, I’ve never really seen anyone bring it up. But you kinda have to feel sorry for some of those guys right??
@CLTPanthers - lol, those guys meaning the guys that chase after me? eh, i guess so, but if they’re going to be assholes about it when i reject them/creepers, i don’t care.
@XoAsianBabioX - assholes…. agreed, that comment about “long distance works out…” was a jerk move, but you got to admit that was pretty hilarious. But seriously, are all those guys creepy??? That’s like the worst thing a guy wants to be called!
@CLTPanthers - yes. they ALL have been creepers. i attract some winners don’t i. xDD
@XoAsianBabioX - hmmm, you can throw me in the winners category if you want, haha. one question for you, please don’t tell me all these creeps have been asian have they??
@CLTPanthers - lol. they were all asian, but i’m pretty sure all guys have the capability of being this creepy. just my campus/group of ppl i associate with is pretty racially disproportionate.
@XoAsianBabioX - nice, i like how you kinda defended asian guys there, but at the expense of trashing all guys in general, pretty funny! so talking about racially disproportionate, my pharmacy school is probably like 95% white…. don’t get to see many asians around, unfortunately… so with this many “creeps” running around, i’m guessing your campus is huge??
@CLTPanthers - well i go to nyu stern. full of chinese kids.
@XoAsianBabioX - havent commented in almost a month, sorry, but you probably dont care. based on your last entry it looks like you had a pretty crummy christmas. how are things going for you now? at least you get to start over with a new semester. hope your situation never affected your grades, it definitely happened to me early last semester, but whatever. anyways how’s nyu stern? never been to new york before, but everyone says it’s awesome!