February 27, 2013
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Thanks for Being Honest
First off, I’d like to apologize that all my posts lately are about my boyfriend. Our relationship just tends to be the source of all my inspiration.
So our honeymoon period is over, and we got into a fight. Not really a fight, but he did something that really annoyed me, so I brought it to his attention. He did it again, and I was pissed and let him know. We solved it calmly, he apologized and understood what he did was wrong, but he kept saying, “Thanks for being so straightforward and honest. I really like that.” Well, honestly, I wasn’t being honest for him. I was just so upset that I needed to say something. I mean, no way in hell was I going to put up with that. He needed to know now that what he was doing had to stop before we’re ten months in and he’s still doing it and I blow up at him out of nowhere.That’s exactly why he thanked me. I’m just assuming that his last girlfriend did that, but I don’t get it. If something annoys me enough for me to visibly be upset, why would I keep it to myself? I mean, I know how to pick and choose my battles, but why would anyone just let someone treat them in a way that’s hurtful? It needs to be acknowledged and fixed, cuz ain’t nobody got time for that passive-aggressive shit. And by now, I have zero tolerance. I’m not going to put up with being treated in a way that hurts me. If I don’t bring it up now, I’m just letting him off the hook, and he’ll continue to upset me. On top of that, I don’t want to get into full-fledged arguments anymore. They’re so emotionally and physically draining. Plus, I look really ugly crying, and Kleenex is fucking expensive. Calm communication is key.On another note, I’ve planned a trip to LA on April 11-14th. If you’re in the area and would like to meet up let me know!
Comments (12)
KTOWN BBQ~!!!!!!!!!!!!
kleenex is expensive?I wish more women would be straightforward. It would make things easier.
It’s alright. It seems that relationships are a popular topic here on Xanga.
Well, for some people, it’s really hard for them to speak up about something because they feel like they can either tolerate it or that they don’t want to be one of those “boyfriends/girlfriends” that nitpicks. Honestly, I think it’s great that you let him know what it is that bothers you, so he knows about it. He seems like a pretty straightforward guy and that sometimes, he doesn’t know it can bother some people until it is brought to their attention. Stay honest, speak from the heart, and work together on issues that come up. Things will be great for you two then. 
I hope everything goes well between you and him… its really a good point being honest with your feelings… stay strong!
Honesty is the right strategy but we don’t need to correct everything in life.
that’s coachella weekend 1! i’ll probably be out there too.
yeah, many women don’t speak of their mind and guys are not sensitive enough to notice. If the guys are that sensitive, the ladies won’t like it (too sensitive).I wish women would just tell us what’s going on, or have school start teaching mind-reading classes.Women are such mystery.
Duane Reade had a 2 for $5 special on Kleenex. Just sayin’
Why apologize for blogging about your guy? Do it if you want. If that guy’s a good guy, I’m happy for you and want to keep reading about it. There are too many people talking about assholes out there in the world so to hear about a good guy is nice for a change (smiles).
you should probably approach the issue before it becomes way too irritating for you. broach the issue calmly and have a conversation about it. a good relationship is about working through things/issues and solving them together. that makes a good relations extra special.
hihi
only way to let a guy know what’s wrong… tell him. Works for me. What brings you to sunny LA? Keep us posted, if I’m free I would be more than willing to attend