After talking to my friend last night, who has the tendency to get friendzoned, I was thinking about how dating is all a game.  It’s a series of calculated moves in order to get certain reactions out of the other.  I personally don’t believe that the dating game really results in successful, happy relationships too often, but as most people, I feed into it.  Girls who apparently hate the game, still play.  The guys who hate the game, have to all play eventually.  Basically, in the end, the game is all about playing coy.  I truly believe that successful relationships stem from just the opposite, being completely vulnerable and preparing for the worst, but that’s beside the point.

The point here is that we all play coy in the dating game, so no one really knows how successful their efforts are.  So the game tends to drag on longer than need be.  But if dating was like Pokemon, every move would be accompanied by a comment about how successful the gesture was.  Now if it doesn’t work, then it’s time to give up, but if it does, then it’s time to progress the relationship.  How easy would life be if we had a commentator that only knows 3 different phrases?

He gave her a Tiffany necklace.  IT’S SUPER EFFECTIVE.

I don’t understand why there’s such a controversy over this.  Every once in a while there’s a huge slew of posts about it, about how supposedly Asian girls want to be more like white people, etc.  (Or Tyra just has to have a show dedicated to it.)  One just popped up on Lovelyish, and it’s damn annoying.  No one questions the antics of white people and their aesthetics.  It’s always non-white people, and somehow it always leads to us wanting to look white.  Nope.  Every culture has their view of beauty.  Like that one African tribe that likes long necks and wears rings around their necks to elongate them.  They don’t want to be giraffes, do they?

The point is, aesthetics are always based around what is considered wealthy, luxurious, and hard to find.  Asians work in the field so they get tan, but if you work in the field then you’re deemed poor.  So rich people were pale.  That’s the basic “history” behind wanting to be pale.  However, why can’t we just want to look pale?  This is the hardest thing for white people to understand, because they just love being tan.  Them being tan doesn’t count as them disregarding their heritage, but if Asians (and even other cultures like Indians, Hispanics, and even Africans) want to become paler, it’s because we want to be like the white man.  Big eyes are/were just an uncommon thing for Asians to have, so people covet it.  Asian people want high noses because of the same reason.  Plus, does anyone really want small eyes and round noses?  White people make fun of our stereotypical eyes all the time.  It’s not because of that that we dislike small eyes, but it’s the fact that most people of all cultures just find it unattractive.  Big eyes and high noses are just all in all more attractive.  Most people would agree.  We don’t want to look like white people.  I have not once met an Asian person with this sort of view on aesthetics that idolized a white person’s looks. 

White people really need to stop being so full of themselves.  And our own culture needs to stop propelling this thought.  We shouldn’t need to explain why we prefer certain things.  If I wanted to look white, I’d do things white people do, like tan, use bronzer, etc.