September 21, 2010
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On Security
I think it’s difficult to find an attractive girl who’s secure. Most people find this confusing and strange, but it all makes sense to me. Looks are the basis of most judgments, so looks must be maintained. However, looks come and go. They’re so volatile. Pretty girls will usually depend on their looks for assurance and acceptance (note, I did not say they manipulate people with their looks), because that’s what people will initially notice about them. So it’s natural for them to feel insecure. Looks have no secure foundation.
For those that aren’t so fortunate to have good looks, they are much more fortunate with their self-esteem. They’ve learned to build a foundation from their personality and wit, rather than relying on looks to build their self-esteem. Personality is much more stable. They have no need to worry about their personality suddenly going bad.
Security truly stems from the feeling of being accepted by most. When you’re accepted by something like looks that’s so unstable, it’s hard to be secure.
Comments (8)
one of your more well written and insightful entry
true~~~~~~~~~ but i think it’s hard to build confidence with personality, either the person is pretty or average to begin with. ~~
You’ve put everything that I was thinking in one piece. I agree, something like that. I had a “pretty boy” for a boyfriend but an asshole for a personality. With an ugly boy, their personality seem to be more upbeat and bright than those with good looks with asshole personality… umm…
You speak the truth chica!
interesting observation. but how insecure do they feel that they don’t have good looks, since media is always portraying the perfect woman?
There are still girls & guys who are attractive, and have great personalities too. It’s unlucky for the ones who have ugly personalities thinking their looks are gonna take them places, eventually their looks will fade away then they’ll have more wrinkles for company than good friends.
you are amazingly thoughtful
I would think developing an intellectual mind and personality would boost a person’s self-esteem and allow a person security rather than looks or personality alone. A person with an intellectual mind would be able to live his/her life based on what he/she feels and not dependent on others’ opinions because at the end of the day, the person only has to answer to himself/herself.