October 11, 2008
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Just Friends?
You know, I wish I could stay in platonic relationships with guys much more than what actually happens. I mean I do have my relationships with guys that are completely friend basis, but more often than not, it’ll be more, or at least the other party hopes it will. Even though it happens pretty often, it still takes me by surprise. I get along with guys really well, and I just would like to be friends with guys. I’m not one to get into relationships so trying to progress to more than a platonic relationship is slightly detrimental.
I have to set one thing straight. If I’m not immediately attracted to you, like from our initial meeting, we probably will never be. I won’t be able to develop feelings to match those you have for me.
There are so many guys that I see as great friend potential. I never look at guys and think of boyfriend material nowadays because I really don’t care for a boyfriend. So I’ll be friendly when they come up to me to talk and everything. As long as he’s not an asshole, he and I will be able to get along.
I friendzone most of my guy friends. Well, actually, I friendzone almost all of my guy friends. I apparently don’t make it obvious enough, and the guy will start making moves. Maybe it’s because I’m a naturally flirtacious person, but they will start spitting game. Lines, innuendo, and fantasies come out of nowhere. I’m one to laugh them off the first time or so, because I like jokes. I can handle sexual jokes, so I just figure that’s what they’re thinking, too. They just have a sexual joke and want to tell me for the fact that they know I won’t flip out or be completely awkward, but it continues. Not only continues, it gets dirtier, more serious, and to the point where I’m questioning his motives.
It surprises me because I just expect this great friendship. Obviously, it’s not possible because I can’t be “just friends” with every guy I meet. They’ll try to make some move or hit on me. I’m really getting sick of it though. I just like to have friends! Nothing more.
My brother had warned me about this. He told me even though they seemed like a friend, there might be more on the agenda. No matter what I expect a guy to be like, he may have hidden motives, and I really need to be aware of that. I naively brushed it off, but it’s been brought to my attention that unless I’m completely and utterly sure of their intentions, I can’t be too careful.
Comments (13)
You look too good, that’s your problem.
love is overrated
I’ve been dating this guy for a long while now and before, I thought it’d be cool because I’d have my boyfriend and my guy friends, but then my guy friends started dropping like flies and after all those years being single – I realized it’s not the friendship they wanted. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he’s twenty-six, he admitted that men never really want to be friends with women, even if they refuse to admit it at times, there are always underlying motives when you’re a pretty girl with a good head on your shoulders.You can go watch ‘When Harry Met Sally’. That’s what the whole movie is about, hahah.And well, I believe it.Best O’ Luck.
The general rule is that there’s always tension between men and women. Only way a woman can be just a friend to a guy is is she’s very unattractive, is his sister, or she’s much older than him. If she’s pretty, it’d be a very big distraction to the friendship (for the guy). Even more so if both are single. It’s hard enough for the guy to find an attractive girl to date, ask out, go through the awkwardness vs. already, here’s the friendship (and she’s attractive!)…it certainly makes sense to date the friend. So, general rule is if you’re attractive, you may have to kiss the friend-thing goodbye. Or, at least don’t wear any deodorant and burp in public. haha
what so special about UPenn that makes you want to go there? Does it have a program that you want to get into?
business? are you going for your mba or phd? Stanford is the best in the country.
is some one a narcissist? jokingmost guys have underlying feelings and or fantasies. heard that on doctor drew and that other guy on the radio… from my own experience though. after i started to date my girlfriend her so called “guy-friends” didn’t want to hang out with her as much if i was there.. weird huh? i actually was starting to get really pissed when she was telling me how much she and the one guy text each other.. “good morning sweety”, “good night hon” what the fuc* is that crap.. but girls are the same to though.. but different how they go about it..
You just think too much
yay for friendships with guys. : ) i was told the same about guys having more on their agenda haha !
wow ! i feel like we’re on the same boat about guys and my brother keeps telling me stuff too that surprises me since im so clueless apparently. aha. guys just confuse me in general. no wonder they invented the idea that ‘men are from mars and women are from venus.’
Must… not… hit… on you… dahhhh! Hey there ;]
oddly enough…i suffer from the same ailment…good luck… 0_o
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